Michael Baker, LMFT
Counseling for Individuals, Couples, & Families
If you or your partner is coping with mental illness, substance abuse or other issues,
your therapist might work with other health care providers to provide a complete spectrum
of treatment. However, you are in charge of that process.
Couples' therapy helps all couples... straight, gay, married or not... to resolve conflicts and improve their relationships. Therapy may improve your problem solving skills, helping you to rebuild your relationship or go your separate ways.
Sometimes getting started in therapy is the hardest part of the process. We understand. Your therapist knows to be sensitive during this time and will move at a pace that is most comfortable. Couples therapy typically brings couples or partners together for joint therapy sessions. Working with a therapist, you'll learn skills to solidify your relationship. These skills might include communicating openly, solving problems together and discussing differences rationally. You'll analyze both the good and bad parts of your relationship as you pinpoint and better understand the sources of your conflicts.
Talking about your problems with a therapist might not be easy. Sessions might pass in silence as you and your partner don't know where to begin — or you might bring your fights with you, perhaps even yelling or arguing during sessions. Both are okay! Your therapist can handle your intensity, even if you think it's hopeless. Therapy can help you cope with the resulting emotions and turmoil.
Some couples seek therapy to strengthen their bonds and gain a better understanding of each other and improve a troubled relationship. Therapy can address many specific issues, including:
If your partner refuses to attend sessions, you can go by yourself. It's more challenging to mend a relationship when only one partner is willing to go to therapy, but you can still benefit by learning more about your reactions and behavior in the relationship.